Remembering Isabella: 1924 – 2012

19 04 2012

Longtime Hooked friends may recognize Isabella Brady’s name from last summer’s story of a traditional foods dinner. Leaning on a walker, dishing slabs of moose alongside venison stew, the Alaska Native Sisterhood president commanded as much attention as the chewy texture of whale between my teeth.

I’d hesitated to post that story without Isabella’s blessing. Before we left town on a fishing trip, I printed a copy at the library and dropped it into the mail, feeling more vulnerable than I had in a long time.

When we returned to town a week later, a gravel-voiced message awaited me. Isabella told me to call her. Exasperated with my nervousness, Joel asked, “What’s the worst she can say?”

Um… Don’t write about her, don’t post her photo – oh, and my writing’s a terrible bunch of cultural exploitation?

When Isabella answered, I stumbled through my introduction. She interrupted me. “I thought your article was outstanding.” Anxiety gave way to embarrassment, as she shared overly generous praise. This single sentence would have been enough: “I was having a real bad day when I got it, and it made me feel real good.”

*****

Our interactions developed around a directive: “Come to my house and have something to eat with me.” More commandment than invitation. Isabella liked to talk, and I was an eager audience.

She instructed me in making clam chowder, while describing the sharp contrast between her Sitka childhood and the North Dakota Presbyterian college she attended on $100/month scholarship. “Bring me the flour tin and a fork. College was like being a celebrity. Home was like being in the Deep South, for all the prejudice against my skin, but at college, it made me special. Are those potatoes gonna boil over? Mostly my classmates were disappointed I wasn’t an Eskimo.”

A woman of ferocious faith, Isabella began every meal with a thorough blessing. On our third visit, she asked if I was affiliated with a church. My response didn’t please her.

When I brought salmon heads from our final trip last summer, she recalled her boat-building grandfather, Peter Simpson, and her own fishing childhood. “We had a scow, used to buy fish from other boats at Lazaria and Shelikof. We’d collect sea gull eggs at Sea Lion Rocks, had to time getting out of the boat with the waves. I hated it – I got so seasick. My brothers teased me, they told me to eat bacon.”

She asked if I knew how to work a video recorder, still wrapped in plastic. “My friend sent it; she said I should record my stories.” We talked about the challenge of telling your own story, for all of the places that it intersects with other people’s. She spoke of her reluctance to intrude on others’ privacy, then shrugged. “They’re mostly all dead now, anyway.”

*****

On Tuesday, my feet bounced lightly down Sitka’s main drag, my backpack laden with a Tupperware of marinated black cod tips. After the meals she’d shared with me, I felt shyly eager to bring Isabella a gift of food I’d harvested.

A few minutes away, I pulled out my phone to make sure it was a good time to visit. A male voice answered on the second ring. I didn’t think anything of it. Isabella’s home was a hive: a constant flow of children, grandchildren, friends buzzing in and out.

“Hi, is Isabella there?” I chirped.

“No… She’s not here right now.”

I glanced at the afternoon sunshine and thought of the black cod in my pack. “Well, will you be there for a minute? I’ve got some fish for her that I could drop off.”

“Who is this?” the man asked.

I hesitated. “Friend” assumed too much; “smitten admirer” would be more honest. “My name’s Tele… I visit with Isabella sometimes.”

His quiet words hit my ear like small pebbles dropped down a well, as he explained that Isabella had fallen the day before. “She was Medevaced to Anchorage… We don’t think she’s coming home.”

*****

I saw Isabella once this spring, shortly after we returned to Sitka. She told me to make us some pancakes, supervising every step from her seat at the kitchen table, murmuring along with the stereo. That saved a wretch like me. She said how blessed she was, reflecting on the love and generosity that people had shared during her winter hospitalizations. She said that she wasn’t afraid of death.

Penny piles lined her coffee table, copper flashes amidst the endless papers of a lifelong leader still organizing from her living room couch. When she grumbled about needing penny rolls, I volunteered to pick some up at the bank. They’re still in my backpack, a rubber-banded stack heavy with accusation. Why didn’t I take them straight to her, right after leaving the bank?

Isabella sent me out the door with a small jar of sourdough starter. She promised, “Once you make your pancakes from sourdough, you’ll wonder why you never did before.” It’s in the Nerka’s dorm-sized refrigerator now. I don’t know anything about keeping starter alive, but I’ll learn. It’s what remains.

*****

Some people seem too powerful to die. Whether by the confidence with which they move through the world, the magnitude of their service, or the depth of what they’ve survived, they seem invincible. As if they glow so bright that they’d scorch Death’s grasping hand. Maybe part of me imagined that would be true of Isabella. When I saw Raven Radio’s Wednesday headline – “Native leader, activist Isabella Brady dies at 88 – I didn’t want to believe.

As a non-Native, I’ll never know the strength, courage, and hope that she provided to so many. The community is reeling, grief shrouding the Brady family, the Kik.sadi clan, and Native people throughout the region. I’ll never know the taste of their loss. I was blessed to spend a mere speck of time in Isabella’s company, a few afternoons far more significant to me than they would have been to her. And though I fear some may hear this story as self-absorbed, my experience is the only authentic place I can speak from, the only language I have to honor Isabella’s tremendous legacy.

In several grace-filled sentences, Mike Schinke said what I’ve spent pages struggling to convey. I’m thankful for his permission to re-post them here.

“A prayer of solace for the Brady family. A prayer for the health of remaining elders. A prayer for the perpetuation of Tlingit language and culture.

Let Isabella Brady’s life be a testament that one person can make a difference in the world. May her accomplishments inspire many to also make the world a better place in their own ways. She will be missed by many and her absence will be felt far and wide for a long time.”

Amen. Rest in peace, Isabella. My deep sympathy to all who are mourning.

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30 responses

19 04 2012
grainsifter

What a moving tribute. It seems you brought one another great joy during your times together. Thank you for sharing Isabella Brady with us.

21 04 2012
Tele

Well, I don’t know that I brought joy, but I think you and I both believe in the power of being present and sharing stories… With that in mind, I’m honored she chose to share some of her stories with me, and hope she gained something from the opportunity to reminisce. Thank you, and you’re most welcome.

19 04 2012
Cindy

Thank you Tele, for sharing your story. It is a good reminder to value those who are with us and remember others who touched our lives but are no longer on this earth.

21 04 2012
Tele

Absolutely – and how we can continue to honor their lives through our memories and service. Thank you, Cindy.

19 04 2012
patriciasands

“Let Isabella Brady’s life be a testament that one person can make a difference in the world.” To me, this is the legacy towards which we should all strive. Thank you for sharing the lovely story of your friendship with Isabella and for so beautifully articulating how powerful it was.

21 04 2012
Tele

I agree, Patricia – wasn’t Mike’s prayer the perfect summation? I read an interview in The Sun recently, Julia Butterfly Hill, with this quote: “It’s impossible not to make a difference. Every choice we make leads either toward health or toward disease; there’s no other direction. The question is not ‘How can I, one person, make a difference?’ The question is ‘What kind of difference do I want to make?’ ” As others tell their own stories of what Isabella meant to them, I suspect we’ll be hearing ever more example of the differences that Isabella chose to make. What more could we ask from a life?

19 04 2012
pierrmorgan

Thank you Tele.

21 04 2012
Tele

I’m glad you stopped by, Pierr. Best wishes.

20 04 2012
J.C. Martin

What a wonderful tribute to a remarkable woman!

21 04 2012
Tele

Thanks, J.C. – that others will see how remarkable she was, even through words on the screen, is a great comment on the phenomenal force of her character.

20 04 2012
kathrynmartins1

“I don’t know anything about keeping starter alive, but I’ll learn. It’s what remains.” Think you’re already learning, Tele. Thank you for telling us about Isabella; for writing new life into the little time you had with her, what you miss enough to remember, and how it feels to want to keep knowing her.

You be well.

21 04 2012
Tele

That’s a good way to consider grief, Kathryn – “What will we miss enough to remember, and how does it feel to want to keep knowing this person?” Thanks for that.

20 04 2012
Steffany Raynes

A beautiful tribute Tele. How lucky you are to have met her and taken the risk to connect with her. Keep that starter alive… it is what remains. What a gift to receive.

20 04 2012
Andrianna

That was beautiful, Tele.

21 04 2012
Judy Brady

Gunalcheesh, for your heartfelt writing.

21 04 2012
Tele

An honor, Judy… I know you’ll be hearing from strangers for years to come, stories of how your mother touched their lives. I’m thankful our paths crossed, and am holding you all in my heart.

21 04 2012
Lakota Harden

so grateful to read this article .Tele’s words ring so true for many of us . Some people seem too powerful to die. Whether by the confidence with which they move through the world, the magnitude of their service, or the depth of what they’ve survived, they seem invincible. As if they glow so bright that they’d scorch Death’s grasping Hand”. . . to me it feels like she’s not gone,that she could not possibly be gone. Her
energy and spirits of the part of so much

21 04 2012
Lakota Harden

And has already changed the lives, the soul’s , the powerful thinking minds of generations .the passing of an era. . .but forever in our hearts

23 04 2012
Tele

Perfectly said, Lakota. Thank you for your comment; I’m glad that you’re in town right now.

21 04 2012
Eunice James-Lee

Thank you Tele, your article is a testament to how she touched our lives as well as how she will live on in each and everyone that had the opportunity to spend time with her.
My thoughts and prayers for her family and the community of Sitka.

21 04 2012
rosseliot

Splendid, Tele…

21 04 2012
Kari

How lucky you were to form a friendship with her, and how lucky we are to have you write about it. You’re a gifted storyteller, my friend.

21 04 2012
Ricky g.

Beautiful writing, thank you for writing it…. I am one of many grandchildren of isabella. She was definitely the muscle of our family and although we are grieving, I know my grandmother would not have left us unless she knew she had taught us everything she had set out to. We are definitely stonger because of her. Thank you

23 04 2012
Tele

I’m nodding along with your words, Ricky, thankful that Isabella lives on in her family, leaving lessons powerful enough to provide strength and solace even now. My best wishes to you and yours.

21 04 2012
Adeline deCastro

Isabella was dear friend to me. We spent many hours on the phone or visiting when I could get to Sitka. She was a comfort to me and my siblings when our mother died (though she didn’t really know us at the time; she had such a loving Christian heart) and remained a friend since 1998.
You have such a gift of writing; it’s as though we were there with you both. I was lucky to be the recipient of warm sourdough pancakes and she shared recipes with me; also was lucky to be there for fresh herring eggs.
I will miss my dear friend and her teaching.
Gunalcheesh
Adeline deCastro

22 04 2012
Angela Littlefield-Mellen

Amazing……I have not seen Isabelle for so many years and was sooo saddened to hear of her passing. I could almost see her in that kitchen, smell the pancakes and hear all of her many stories. Thank you so much for sharing.

23 04 2012
Graham Milne

Elegant and deeply moving. Thank you for this.

24 04 2012
Jodi Aman

Thanks for sharing her with us. Her courage will inspire us all!

24 04 2012
Patricia Alexander

Isabella Brady was beloved and will be missed. She accomplished so much in her lifetime and helped so many people. I hope others will step up to do this work she wanted done.

28 04 2012
angelamercy

What an inspiring elder. This is what the final phase of life is about. Thank you for sharing her beauty, and thanks for the reminder to take advantage of every opportunity to be in the presence of true wisdom keepers.




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